Ever since the crash, I've been thinking a bit more about an idea I had last year. When Ham was murdered, I had my family and his family, for support. Without them, I honestly think I would weigh two hundred pounds and have serious mental health issues, so, everyone who did help me: I don't mean to sound ungrateful. But the thing I found most helpful in that first year was the morning a woman staying here sat at the bar, and we shared a cup of tea and she talked about how she'd lost her husband three years before to a heart attack. The circumstances weren't the same, but she knew what I meant about how horrible a cool pillowcase can be, beside you; not in the way that my mother and sister sympathized because they love me and worried for me, but in her fingertips, she absolutely knew. I want to be that woman for someone else, though Lord knows I wish there weren't so many that could use it, these days.
So, I've done a little extra charming to this entry. If you reply, you'll only see what you say and what I say back, nobody's going to take the piss because they see you've lost a loved one. But, my overall proposition is a little grander. I'm posing that anyone who might want to be this woman - or
man, for those of you fools not secure enough to declare yourself a woman for the sake of a metaphor - to someone else, or who might need a little of this woman in their life to help them through a loss, that we start a support network. I promise, it won't be Sad Sacks Anonymous night at the 3B every Monday, or anything quite so horrible as that, and it doesn't matter to me who you're missing or how they passed. Just a list of names to look through if we need a lunch date to motivate us out of the house, or if we've an extra place at our dinner table, can't find a babysitter, or,
wah, yes, someone just to talk to once in a while. Let me know if you're keen on this, or you'd rather I keep you off the list and we just have a chat ourselves. Dickheads looking to gloat about the death of my beloved husband need not respond.